Homework is not something new. High school students have been taking schoolwork home since the elementary invention of the 3-word vocabulary list. Helping students develop day-to-day self-reliance or better yet, self-discipline by completing homework assignments, parents can become allies in building strong life-long study habits.
For parents, the stress of simply getting through the daily grind of conflict with their student about getting their homework done can be overbearing. With this in mind, I want to share four tips that might establish a more workable setting with your Rocket student when it comes to homework.
Tip #1: Understand and make peace with the fact that your student may hate doing homework. As much as we would want them to love homework like they do their facebook time, it simply isn’t a reality. Accepting how they feel about their homework is not the same as agreeing with them. It’s about empathy, recognizing their emotion while still setting rules, boundaries and reasonable expectations.
Tip#2: Try to facilitate rather than intimidate. You can beg, plead, bribe and threaten, but the outcome will be a short-lived acquiescence, eventually losing effectiveness leaving you no choice but up the ante, or threat! Stay positive even when you don’t want or desire to be positive. Praise them, let them know that you’re on their side (or team if you like the athletic vernacular). Humor can be a good tool too. There are lots of funny quotes on homework online. Try a google search and you’ll see what I mean.
Tip #3: Shift the responsibility from you to your student. For many, this is the most challenging of the four tips. Creating the environment for focused study is crucial. Today’s student is used to multi-tasking, IPOD in one ear, TV on ESPN and 10 person chats on facebook is their norm. Consider providing them with music and leaving facebook and TV as their new “bowl of ice cream” for a job well done (homework completed). High school students need (and want) structure. Take on the challenge!
Tip #4: Allow your child to experience the authentic pride in a job well done. Too much help can result in a sense of helplessness. Even high school students can become overly reliant on adult support. Students grow into more capable and confident adults when they are allowed to succeed (and fail) on their own terms. Monitoring their progress and providing them positive verbal cues will build their perseverance and confidence in meeting the demands of the assigned work.
Homework is an integral part of high school life. Understanding that homework provides the repetition needed to deepen student learning, it’s imperative that parents take an active role in providing guidance and support early and often. The results will bring many more gratifying evenings home with your student!